Goodbye Shane

Sometimes we’d make plans to meet up, she’d all of a sudden have some sort of emotional upset and needed him to comfort her. She constantly needs reassurance that he loves her and she’s Is number one. It’s always something or another with Shane’s primary partner .

When we first began seeing each other, we were both on that new relationship high where we couldn’t get enough of each other .  I asked him over and over if he was sure that his partner was ok with all of the attention he was giving me.  He swore that everything was fine at home.  To be honest, I didn’t believe him but chose to ignore my intuition and continued seeing him.

There were times we would meet up and he’d constantly watch the clock. He had this nervous energy about him.  It’s as though he was sneaking out to be with me. I asked him about his skittish behavior and he told me that work and his in-laws were wearing on him and  apologized for acting strange.The last time we were together, he couldn’t maintain an erection.  He laughed It off and told me his partner got to him right before he met up with me and needed some time to recover.  I was upset and told him I had to get back to work an ended our date.

Why was I so upset? 

I was upset because I believed that she sent him to me this way out of spite and jealousy and purposely sabotaged our date. I’m so over these two. I don’t want the added stress in my life.

Managing Time Wisely

I honestly need to clean up my FreeTone and Kik apps. Although many of the men who messaged me are fun and flirty, my time Is honestly limited. Going forward, unless they really ring my bell and mentally connect, I’m going to have to turn off notifications  and block them.

I need to fight the urge to swipe right , especially If my inbox is already flooded. In an ideal world, Dating websites would have better filters so  that It wouldn’t take so much time to find what I’m looking for.  I’ve figured out that I have time for two-three lovers, currently I only have one, but honestly  I need more than once per week and that’s all he has time for.

I’ve begun directing men to this blog.  It’s beginning to filter quite a bit and I feel like I’m onto something here.  I wonder if I should link this blog to all of my profiles? Is that even allowed? Think how much excitement I would feel if when my phone is buzzing or I have a ton of notifications , the majority of them are from men who understand my wants and are physically attractive to me. Lol, I’d  be even more terrible at budgeting my time let me not kid myself.


Typical Night With Shane-Pleasure and Pain during sex

I  do enjoy a bit of pain during sex, but only with trusted lovers.    No whips, chains and dungeons for me, oh no.  I like hands. I want to feel your hands.  I like hearing the sound of your hands slapping my ass while you drill me from behind.  When you grab me by the throat and throw me on the bed. Or when I’m on my knees blowing you while you’re sitting in the driver’s seat, you pulling up my dress exposing my ass, spanking me really hard until I tear up. As you can tell, tonight I’m going to write about the typical night with Shane. Pleasure and pain during sex.

He calls me “Momma” or “Pretty Momma”. He loves to send “Momma” home to her husband with bruises and no panties on.

Shane brings me home, usually late at night . I open the front door, go straight upstairs to the master bedroom, where the lights are always on with hubby in bed, wide awake waiting up for me because he cannot sleep unless everyone Is home safe. He asks: “Babe”, did you have a good time?” I reply:” definitely.  I then throw my arms around him and give him a kiss, then strip down and head to the shower. I usually take long, steamy hot showers so I can replay the whole evening In my head and stay in trance just a bit longer. My whole body Is sore, usually lasting for a few days. When the soreness begins to wear off , I’ll go out again for more.

*For more on Shane and I, click  here

How To Tell If He’s Well Endowed Before Meeting?

For those of us who feel that cock size matters when choosing a lover, I’m here to help.  How many times have you matched with a man, but wondered If the both of you will be sexually compatible? Do you feel awkward  asking him what he is working with under those “Seven For All Mankind jeans?” To cut down on time-wasting, disappointment and hurt feelings, here are some tips on how you can tell if he’s well endowed before meeting him.

Move The Conversation To VideoChat Quickly

As soon as you’ve exchanged pleasantries on whatever dating site you’re using, immediately move the conversation to Kik or some other video chatting messenger service you prefer.  If you both have nothing to hide, this should be a non issue. Nine times out of ten, the man initiates flirting and begins requesting sexy pics.  This is when ( in a subtle way) I’d reassure him that he may show me anything he thinks that I need to see.  The majority of men (in my experience) typically begin sending pics and videos at this point In the hopes that they’ll get explicit pictures/videos of me.  I personally have no issue with showing off for a potential lover because I want both of us to be happy with each other’s bodies.  This a purely sexual relationship after all.

Study Those Cock Pics and Videos

Judging size from videos and pics can be a bit tricky and let’s face it, some of you gents deal In “internet inches”.  My advice is to pay very close attention to those pics from these wonderful exhibitionists.  If he is sitting upright nude with a full erection, look to see how close the tip of his cock Is to his bellybutton. For me, anything at or above the belly-button is ideal. As you all know, large cocks certainly hold my attention. For girth, watch how he is stroking his cock.  Is he using a clenched fist? Is the tip of the index finger and thumb struggling to encircle it? Could he easily use both hands to stroke his erection? Finally, tried and true ( If he’s an Xfinity subscriber) have him pose his erect cock with the remote control at the base. 

Finding out if he’s well endowed before meeting him will be a lot easier if you use at least a couple of these tips. If you have other tips to add, feel free to drop them in my comments section. 

**Xfinity remote control is eight inches long.


My Experience With Monogamy

During my twenties, monogamy felt very restricting and unnatural . This was during a time in my life when I was desperately trying to conform to my then husband’s and family’s expectations.  I was never able to live up to those standards for longer than a year.

I felt tremendous guilt when my previous husband (now my very awesome ex-husband ) showed disappointed and hurt when he found out on several occasions that I’d been unfaithful to him. We eventually got a divorce .

Although the divorce felt like a death In the family, It was the most liberating feeling  I’d felt in years.  At that point, I decided that marriage and monogamous relationships were not for me. I was content with living my life on my terms, guilt-free and shameless.

A couple of years later, I met and fell in love with my current husband.   I was very upfront with Joseph that I was never throwing away my little black book and would continue seeing others.  Fortunately, he always fantasized about being married to a “hotwife” and having a monogamous partner wasn’t a priority for him.  We then came to the happy conclusion that we were made for each other.  I’ve finally found someone who I can be myself with.

Are Cock Pics Ever Ok?

Perhaps I’m in the minority when it comes to this point of view, but I absolutely love cock pics.  They can be a  fabulous tool in determining If I want to take on a particular lover.   My favorite ones are done using the video feature on cell phones and of course with the man’s face very visible.

I most enjoy the ones with creativity. The two that stands out the most  currently are the ones from “Latin lover” and “Pound”. Latin lover’s mini video clips are all done with Kik camera ( so I know that they were created just for me).  He always gets the lighting right and plays soft sexy music in the background to set the mood while he’s stroking. The surroundings are super tidy also.

Then there is Pound. His mini video clips make me feel a  mixture of amusement and arousal at the same time.  First of all, I’m not sure why he calls himself “Pound”.  I think he should have gone with the nickname “Tripod”.  In his videos , he sometimes dresses up for the occasion.  I have seen him wear pants with suspenders ( which he loves to unzip ever so slowly, showing off his erection and cock ring on his balls.) and other times long johns with four-leaf clover prints all over the top and bottoms. What I find most amusing is that he often has some sort of action movie soundtrack playing with him gyrating in slow motion and stroking at the same time. I’ve never seen anything like his performance in my life!

Will I meet with either of these men?  Eventually yes, I think it would be rude not to;)

*To the men reading this post, please ask before sending cock pics.  Not every woman appreciates them.

Dating a Polyamorous Man For The First Time

Dating a polyamorous man is new for me but I’ve decided to give him a chance because I’m insanely attracted to him. He’s a working-class, blue-collar guy, who likes weed and has many tattoos. I met him a while ago on OKcupid. We chatted for a week then met in person about a week after matching with each other. I’m giving him a chance because he ticks most of the boxes.

Shane is a handsome redhead that’s tall, young, well endowed and fun to be around. He does have a couple of negative habits that I find extremely annoying but I”m choosing to enjoy the ride for now. For more on the fun times that Shane and I have together, check out “Typical Night With Shane“.  For the negatives, please read below.

What Annoys Me About Shane?

A negative and It’s a big one is that he already has a long-term partner who he obviously loves. Let me be clear, I’m not bothered that he has a primary partner. I understand this is par for the course when dating a polyamorous man.  I just have a problem with him oversharing with his primary partner. The details that he shares with her about our dates and phone messages just doesn’t sit well with me.  I don’t mind talking about our kids or our significant others ever so often.  What I dislike is the constant presence of the third person.  Our time should be exactly that, ” Our time”, an escape from the everyday stresses.

He’s a Chatty Boundary Pusher

Shane also constantly drops hints of wanting a threesome with me and his girlfriend, knowing that I’m not attracted to women.  I’ve made it clear in my dating profile on OkCupid   and also to him that I’m straight.  I’ve even told him on several occasions that the only threesome that would interest me are mfm, yet he keeps rambling on and on about her hoping that I’ll eventually relent and say; ” Great, I think she is wonderful too, lets all play together”.  He also mentioned that when he is with her, he constantly talks about me; surely she finds that annoying?

Shane told me that wifey gets off on sharing him and also enjoys hearing about his encounters ( although I’m not so sure that I believe him).  In my mind, Shane and wifey already have their dynamic and want a second woman who will join them as a couple when they are bored just fucking each other.  I find nothing wrong with that, but that is not the situation  I’m looking for.

Finding what I want is challenging so  I’ll likely keep seeing him until something (someone) more suitable comes along.